Helping Someone You Know

Helping Someone You Know:

If you think a friend or loved one is being abused, tell them that you're concerned and let them know you want to help. You don't have to know all the answers but tell them that you will find out information on their behalf so they can make an informed choice about what to do.
Always prioritise safety - yours and theirs. Confronting the abuser is not a good idea. Be very careful about what you do, when you do it and how you do it.
Support them in the decisions they are currently making about their relationship so they do not feel judged, it is not always easy for people to 'just leave'. However, always be clear that the abuse is wrong.
Maintain contact with them and ask them how you can support them.
Agree a code word so you know they're in danger and cannot
access help them self.
Offer to keep copies of important documents and other items at your house in case they need to leave in a hurry (they do not have to spend time collecting these items).
Don't give up on them; you might be their only lifeline.
If you are a neighbour you can find out information for them about options, offer to keep copies of important documents and offer for the victims and their children to be able to run to you if they need to leave the house immediately. Be aware though that these situations can be highly dangerous so always keep yourself safe.
In an emergency dial 999