Domestic Violence: What Can I Do If It’s Happening To Me?

Don't Blame Yourself:

It happens to people of all ages, classes, races, religions, levels of intelligence
You are not responsible for the violence
You can't change the abusers behaviour
It is rare to only happen once and often gets more serious the longer it continues
Don't keep it a secret - there is a lot of help available

Talk to Someone:

Talking to someone you trust like a friend or family member can help
Contact a support agency like an Independent Domestic Violence Advisor 0208 863 9583

Leaving an Abusive Partner:

If you are experiencing domestic violence or abuse you may need to leave in a hurry so it is good to have a safety plan in place.

Safety Plan:

Have a list of phone numbers with you, including police, women's aid, victims support, friends and relatives you trust
Know somewhere you can quickly and easily use a phone (a neighbours, friend, phone box or relative)
Try and keep some money somewhere safe for train, taxi or bus fare
Try and make copies of all important documents like passports, birth certificates and bank accounts somewhere safe
Get a spare set of keys to the house / flat
Pack a small bag with the spare keys, copies of documents and money and keep it at a trusted friends house
Tell someone you trust
See your GP so there is a record of injuries
Explain to your children (who are old enough to understand) the escape plan and that you may need to leave in a hurry and explain you will take them with you or come back for them